Okay, this is a fun and increasingly common fashion exploration! Coordinating with women’s high heels, especially taking inspiration from someone like Jo Kwon (who’s known for pulling it off very well), is about confidence, understanding silhouette, and playing with gender expression. Here’s a breakdown of how to do it, broken down into levels of boldness, with considerations for different styles and a focus on making it work for you. I’ll also address potential pitfalls.
Important Considerations First
- Confidence is Key: Seriously. This look is inherently attention-grabbing. You must own it. If you’re hesitant, it will show. Start small and build up.
- Fit is Paramount: This is even more important than with regular shoes. Ill-fitting heels will be uncomfortable and look awkward. You need to be able to walk (relatively) comfortably and maintain your balance. Consider getting them professionally stretched if needed.
- Know Your Audience/Context: This isn’t appropriate for every situation. A fashion-forward event, a club, a creative workspace – these are better than a conservative office or a formal religious ceremony. Be mindful of cultural norms.
- It’s About the Look, Not Impersonation: You’re not trying to be a woman. You’re using a traditionally feminine item to create a unique and interesting aesthetic. The goal is fashion, not drag (though drag is a valid art form, this is different).
- Safety First: Practice walking in them in a safe environment before venturing out. Ankle support is crucial. Don’t attempt anything beyond your skill level.
Levels of Coordination – From Subtle to Bold
I’ll categorize this into levels, with examples. I’ll also give a “Jo Kwon Vibe Check” rating (1-5, 5 being most like Jo Kwon’s style).
Level 1: The “Hint of Heel” (Vibe Check: 1/5 – Very Subtle)
- The Shoe: Block heels are your friend here. They offer more stability. Think 1-2 inches. Pointed-toe or almond-toe are easier to pull off than super-stiletto shapes. Neutral colors (black, nude, grey) are best to start. Avoid anything too sparkly or embellished.
- The Outfit: This is about subtly incorporating the heel into a more masculine outfit.
- Example 1: Slim-fit black jeans, a white t-shirt, a leather jacket, and black block heel ankle boots. The jeans should be long enough to mostly cover the heel, so it’s a peek rather than a full display.
- Example 2: Tailored trousers (navy or charcoal), a crisp button-down shirt (untucked or partially tucked), and low block heel loafers.
- Example 3: Dark wash denim, a chunky knit sweater, and black heeled Chelsea boots.
- Key: The heel is an accessory to the outfit, not the focal point. The overall look remains predominantly masculine.
- Focus: Comfort and ease of wear. This is a good starting point to get used to the feeling of wearing heels.
Level 2: The “Statement Shoe” (Vibe Check: 2-3/5 – Moderate)
- The Shoe: You can start experimenting with slightly higher heels (2-3 inches). Consider interesting textures (suede, patent leather). Colors can be bolder, but still relatively versatile (burgundy, deep green). Pointed-toe pumps or strappy sandals (with ankle straps for security) are options.
- The Outfit: The outfit becomes more deliberate in complementing the shoes.
- Example 1: Black skinny jeans, a silk blouse (maybe with a subtle print), a blazer, and pointed-toe black pumps. The blouse adds a touch of femininity that works with the heels.
- Example 2: Tailored shorts (think Bermuda length), a fitted t-shirt, a bomber jacket, and strappy heeled sandals. This is a more summery look.
- Example 3: Wide-leg trousers, a tucked-in graphic tee, and block heel sandals in a contrasting color.
- Key: The shoes are a noticeable part of the outfit, but the overall look is still balanced. You’re starting to play with proportions and silhouette.
- Focus: Creating a cohesive look where the shoes enhance the outfit, rather than clash with it.
Level 3: The “Full Coordination” (Vibe Check: 4/5 – Bold)
- The Shoe: Higher heels (3+ inches). More adventurous styles – stilettos, platforms, brightly colored heels, embellished heels. This is where you can really express your personality.
- The Outfit: This is where you start to actively coordinate the heels with the rest of your outfit, potentially incorporating traditionally feminine elements.
- Example 1: A fitted jumpsuit (dark color), a statement belt, and bright red stilettos. The jumpsuit provides a sleek base for the bold shoes.
- Example 2: A pleated midi skirt (think a dark floral print), a fitted black turtleneck, and black platform heels. This is a more androgynous look.
- Example 3: High-waisted tailored trousers, a cropped sweater, and brightly colored, patterned heels.
- Key: The outfit is designed to showcase the heels. You’re embracing a more androgynous or gender-bending aesthetic.
- Focus: Creating a visually striking and memorable look. This requires a good eye for color, proportion, and texture.
Level 4: The “Jo Kwon Inspired” (Vibe Check: 5/5 – Extremely Bold)
- The Shoe: Anything goes! The higher, the more embellished, the better. Think vibrant colors, unique textures, and eye-catching designs.
- The Outfit: Full-on fashion statement. Mixing masculine and feminine elements in unexpected ways. Think tailored pieces paired with flowing fabrics, bold prints, and statement accessories. This is about pushing boundaries and expressing your creativity. (Look at Jo Kwon’s Instagram for inspiration!)
- Key: This is about confidence, self-expression, and a willingness to experiment.
- Focus: Creating a unique and unforgettable look that reflects your personality.
Specific Style Tips
- Color Coordination: Match the color of your heels to another element in your outfit (a shirt, a jacket, an accessory). Or, use a contrasting color to create a pop.
- Proportion: If you’re wearing high heels, balance the look with clothing that isn’t too bulky or oversized. Fitted or tailored pieces work best.
- Accessories: Use accessories to tie the look together. A statement belt, a bold necklace, or a stylish bag can all complement the heels.
- Hosiery (Optional): If you’re comfortable with it, hosiery can add a touch of sophistication or playfulness. Fishnet stockings or patterned tights can be particularly striking.
- Pedicure: Don’t forget about your feet! A well-maintained pedicure is essential.
Pitfalls to Avoid
- Looking Like You’re in Drag (Unless That’s the Goal): Avoid overly feminine clothing or makeup if you’re aiming for a more androgynous look.
- Uncomfortable Shoes: If you can’t walk comfortably in the heels, it will ruin the look.
- Clashing Colors or Styles: Pay attention to color coordination and ensure that the shoes complement the rest of your outfit.
- Overdoing It: Sometimes, less is more. Start with a subtle look and gradually build up your confidence.
- Ignoring Context: Be mindful of the situation and dress appropriately.
Resources for Inspiration
- Jo Kwon’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kwon_jo/
- Pinterest: Search for “men in heels,” “gender-bending fashion,” or “androgynous style.”
- Fashion Blogs and Websites: Look for articles on androgynous fashion or gender-fluid style.
Ultimately, the best way to coordinate with women’s high heels is to experiment and find what works for you. Don’t be afraid to try new things and express your creativity. Have fun with it! Good luck!